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[sarahjane33]

on 10th october 2009 my mum passed away due to cancer.i am angry with myself for not being over it.i try and not think of it most of the time but then after a few days it hits me again.none of my friends understand they think i should be over it by now,my mum was my only family i have a stepdad who is grieving but he has his son and daughter and i feel abandoned so i push it to the back of my mind and dont think about it its like im acting on overdrive.what can i do to get over this?thank you

[Alex James]

Hello
Well there is no remedy for the pain of loss of a loved one , no quick fix  and I don't believe we ever do 'get over it 'In time the pain eases a little most days and we manage it , that is the reality for most of us. Your mum was clearly a very important part of your world and your feelings sound so normal , please allow yourself to be however you need to be and take good care of you . I  thank you for sharing here , many people write to me in confidence every day with similar feelings , sharing , knowing others feel like us can be very comforting . If you would like a confidential reply please mail me at
alexjames@bereavement.co.uk

Take Care
Alex