I wrote this a couple of years ago …… its about enabling the bereaved to take thier time , not to rush or be rushed into packing away thier deceased loved one. I often wonder why we do this and why others arpound us encourage the packing up and removal of thier belongings …… does doing this make the pain less , does it mean we forget more quickly or is it about thier feelings and concerns Id love to hear your thoughts … meanwhile heres the poem …. Alex
Leave The Coat
Leave the coat hang on the door
The hat the shoes the things they wore
Allow yourself the space to grieve
Indulge your pain when loved ones Leave
Tidy up another day but never put their space away
Well meaning friends may think it’s strange
And pack them up and rearrange
It’s hard to know what things to say
To help someone pack their grief away
But sometimes all you need to do
Is sit and listen and be you
And let them talk and share the pain
And gently present to remain
Grieving never goes away
It walks beside us every day
Sometimes it feels a little less and others raw and more distress.
But slowly as times move on it may
And slowly we put things away
The space they leave will always stay
The space they leave will always stay
Don’t hide your grief wear it share it
A J