The first Few Days 

“It almost felt like I’d have to remind myself to breathe”

Things can be so overwhelming after a traumatic incident or death, that not only might we find it hard to think about what we should do next, we might forget to do simple everyday things

Remember that even though it doesn’t seem like it, what you are feeling is very normal.You  are not strange or going mad, it really is usual  to feel the way you do.

It can feel like talking about what has happened,has not helped at all at the time, but it really is better to talk about it than to keep it bottled up.

Here’s just a few ideas of how to manage the some of the experience of bereavement.

• Talk to family , friends , your GP.(Your GP may also be able to access good counselling support.)
• Know that the telling of the story, talking about your feelings is a way of processing and will aid your manageability long term.
• Take time to think about you.
• Don’t rush into any decisions.
• Do things a little at a time.
• Don’t try to do too much
• Stop worrying about others , at this time you need to think about yourself and your needs
• Rest when you feel able.
• If you can’t eat don’t worry but do keep your fluid intake, Sweet drinks will help maintain sugar levels  avoid excessive drinking ( alcohol). Try to eat small amounts often
• Stomach disorder , physical pains , lack of sleep  are all usual /normal at this time
• Accept offers of help from family , friends , neighbours
• Say no , don’t feel pressurised to do things that don’t feel do able,plan any trips that you do have to make and take time to think about self care

There are lots of agencies that offer support if you would like support or would like to share your ideas with us please contact us at alexjames@bereavement.co.uk